Friday, April 1, 2011

FBFF ~ Rules of Engagement

Katy over at ModlyChic, is the founder of Fashion/Beauty Friend Friday {FBFF}. Each week, Katy puts some thought provoking questions together and emails them to us. On Friday we all post our responses. It's s a fun, diverse and creative blog community! If you're interested in being a part of this fabulous group, head over to Katy's FBFF page for details!

Here's what Katy had to say about this week's questions:
"A number of bloggers have reached out to me recently about how to deal with Tweets, emails, DMs etc… from people who seem to be only pushing their own blog. It got me thinking – for a new blogger the rules of engagement with others in the blogging world is uncharted territory. We learn a lot about how to do it from trial and error."

1. Guest posts are a good way to gain new exposure. What do you think is the appropriate way to go about securing a guest spot?
I am not really sure how to answer this question. I have never written a guest post before, or asked anyone to have me do so. I think the appropriate way to go about it would be to first find out what the blogger's policy is on that. For instance, if they have regular guest posts and they have a blurb on their blog saying to email them if you are interested, then by all means, email them and see what comes of it. That is if it your blogs are a good fit with one another in content. If they prefer to initiate the guest posts, I, personally wouldn't ask. I think it's best not to ask for a guest post in any situation, unless you have established a relationship with the blogger.

2. Leaving comments is essential to growing your blog. But how can you leave a comment without coming across as ‘Follow Me. Follow Me!’?
First off, if you don't have an sincere response to the post, do not comment. Every once in awhile if I really love a blogger's look, but maybe there wasn't much written content to comment on, I will just say I'm into the outfit, but I usually try to save commenting for when really have something to say in response to the post. I make an effort to comment in a way that fosters conversation. I have received a few comments where someone tells me they are following me and asks me to follow back and to be totally blunt- I think it's super annoying and kind of rude!

3. We’ve all gotten a mass email at one time or another asking for blog exposure, a link exchange, etc… But the mass emails don’t work. How do you make your email stand out from the crowd?
Um... I don't think I have ever written an email to ask someone to expose my blog.

4. In interacting with other bloggers where do you draw the line between seeking support and begging for exposure?
I have asked for support from a handful of different bloggers. First off, they are usually bloggers that I have established some relationships with, i.e. commenting back and forth, tweeting and at times, emailing. I wouldn't just randomly email someone out of the blue. Also, when I have done this, I have a specific question about something, or earlier on I just wanted some feedback as to my blog's aesthetic and such. In doing this, my only expectation was some feedback, and those lovely ladies gave me honest opinions, challenged me and gave me awesome constructive criticism! I am so grateful! I think the key here is relationship.

5. What’s one rule of engagement error you made and how have you remedied that?
Hmmm... one thing that I didn't intend the way it could have been perceived is, if I find a blog that I love right away I might comment and towards the end, say, "from your newest follower!" When I said that I meant it as a compliment, to let them know that on my first visit I chose to follow them because I thought their blog was so fabulous. I did NOT mean "*hint, hint* I'm following you so you should follow me." Now that I've seen so many of those types of comments, I can totally see how my compliment could have been read that way. Bummer. Also, I know at the beginning I was trying to get to know as many people as possible, and probably left way too many "cute outfit" type comments. We live and we learn. To remedy this, I am just me. I just try to be as authentic as possible and hope that it shines through.



  1. great answers krystal and we've all made errors like that when we first start out :)

  2. great q&a and I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one that dislikes the follow me, follow me comments. I think being genuine is SO important. I always value readers that leave insightful comments. Hope your having a great Friday. xx veronika

  3. Your answers pretty much echo mine. I feel the same way. You know what they say: birds of a feather flock together! Probably why I really dig your blog!
    Happy Friday!!

  4. It does shine through. I've seen your comments on other blogs besides my own and have to say that it's one of the reasons I made it a point to stop by your blog the first time - I appreciated how genuine you seemed and it's kind of unfortunate how much that quality stands out as a rarity!

  5. I read this post earlier, too. It was pretty informative. I don't think I've "broken" any of these yet, but I definitely should offer to do a guest post for some of my blogger friends if they go out of town or something! I wouldn't worry about the "new follower" thing. I don't think badly of posts like that at all. I do get the occasional "follow me back @" type comment, and that seems a little pushy, but you definitely don't do that!

  6. Ya, I haven't seen you break any of these either! It's cool cause you definitely stand out naturally! I was interested in you and your blog, but never because you were forceful, which is awesome! Keep it up, girl! :)

    Oh, and thank you for the regular comments! It's so fun to have "regulars," I love it and I'm excited to keep getting to know each other!

  7. Oh, wow. I know I tweeted this to you earlier, but I'd rather reply here as well, where I don't have the character limit. :) This comment really made my day! It's so nice to have something like this recognized. You know, it really goes to show that you never know who's watching, so it's just so important to be true to who you are at all times, doesn't it? I do really make an effort to be genuine and to have integrity. It's encouraging when someone takes notice. Thank you so much for these kind words. I truly needed them today!! Have a wonderful weekend!!

  8. ha! totally!! thanks for stopping by! :)

  9. ya, girl you probably get a TON of those, don't you? Thanks for stopping by, Veronika. Have a great weekend!

  10. I know, it's encouraging to know we can bounce back! :) thanks for commenting, Faye!

  11. It is soo important, as you said, to have a relationship with other bloggers. It really is all about that: creating, establishing, and maintaining relationships. I really enjoyed reading your answers, and thank you so much for your amazing comment. You made me smile! :)

  12. I love how frank you are in this post, Krystle! Relationships are key and the "begging" (love that photo, by the way) to follow my blog is desperate & unattractive. I think I, too, have made the mistake of "cute outfit" comments instead of being conversationally myself. No worries, though. It seems that we've both risen above that :)

  13. thanks! I always try to keep it real! :) Yes, I think so too!

  14. I hate those messages that say hey i follow you so follow me back too! Its so good with this FBFF that everyone can come to realise this!!

    Monique xx

  15. Such honest answers Krystle! I think many of us have left a "cute outfit" comment at one point in the beginning. But, I agree with you relationship is key.
    I also have learned not to just follow someone just because they follow you... I never liked those messages, "hey follow me on a comment"
    I really like to take time and visit the blog & especially read past entries that may not be someone's latest. Sometimes a current entry may not resonate with you to follow them that day, it's a past one where I have found sometimes the most impact, & where I see their growth as a blogger. making me want to build that relationship & know more about what they have to say. -xxoo :)

  16. Comments should definitely be a conversation, and help to form a relationship between bloggers!


Your comments mean so much to me!! Thank you for the support!!


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